In loving memory of

Judith Ann Stinson

Went to rest on August 26, 2020


Judith Ann Stinson passed away with dignity and grace at her Kirkwood home with her husband and best friend Scott Schaefer at her side on Wednesday August 26, 2020 following a courageous battle with cancer. A lifetime St. Louisian, Judy was immersed in the medical and legal communities. Following a ten year career as a neonatal intensive care flight nurse for Cardinal Glennon Hospital, Judy was recruited to the law firm of Gray Ritter and Graham P. C. to become the senior nurse paralegal. For the next thirty years Judy was a key member of the firms trial teams , working close for clients with unwavering devotion. Her many lifelong friends will remember Judy’s warm hospitality, her superlative baking and cooking skills and her dry wit.

Judy was one of five sisters who were also dear friends and she cherished her role as aunt to her 11 nieces and nephew.

Judy is survived by her husband Scott Schaefer, her parents Robert and Virginia Stinson, sisters Chris Gibbons ( Patrick), Casey Lange ( Robert ), Peggy Shelly (Carson), and Patty Kleiss (John), 11 nieces and nephew, and many friends, and will be sadly missed by her colleagues at Gray Ritter & Graham.

Pursuant to Judy’s wishes she was cremated. A memorial service honoring Judy’s life will be held at a future date. Donations may be made in her honor to PBS/Channel 9 below.

The love of my life passed away this morning . . .

8:02 am on August 26, 2020. She was 61 years old.

I was blessed enough to be able to hold her in my arms and whisper sweet nothings in her ear as she drifted away from me forever.

I wanted to write down my thoughts while they were fresh in my reeling mind.

I will miss you terribly my love. You were my wife, my lover, my very best special friend. It took me 50 years to find you.

I’ve always been a relatively solitary kind of guy. I had no problem being alone. That changed when I met Judith.

She was the first woman that ever, truly saw my soul. I opened to her completely. No secrets. No varnishing the truth. She knew me as I was. Warts and all. And I believe she shared her inner most thoughts and dreams and fears with me as well.

We were both born on Valentine’s Day. She was Ying. I was Yang. She was right hemisphere, I was left. Together we made one hell of a brain. We were the “Schaefersons.”

I miss her already. Not really sure how to proceed with a life without her. Not sure what to do.

Judith was special. Loving. Generous. Kind. Funny. Beautiful. She was the “whole package.” To me, she was “Judalicious.”

I will miss her laugh. Her intensity. Her smile. Her ability to bring order to chaos in our lives. I will miss listening to her sing (and her knowing all the words to every musical we ever watched together). I will miss our slow romantic cruises in our old Cadillac convertible. The long, fragrant soaks we shared during “tub-time.” The sweet, lazy days at the Lake. I will miss kissing her goodnight – and kissing her again every morning.

My bestest friend. The love of my life.

Both of our lives have been plagued with pain and fear and heartache. The great “cosmic unfairness” that we all have to endure at some points in our lives. Being with Judith – knowing there was someone I could share my life with – made it all bearable. All worthwhile. The woman saved my life.

I only had the privilege to know and be with Judith for about 12 years. I wanted to celebrate that time with you in the attached video. As you will see, she was my muse…and a great sport to put up with my tilted sense of humor. So, please do not judge her when you see many a picture with a wine glass in her hand – that was simply how I plied her to participate in my folly!


Remembering Judy . . .

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I encourage everyone to leave their thoughts, stories and memories of Judith.

Let’s share all the good times that occur during a life well spent.

When all the Corona Virus dust settles, and we can gather again as friends, family and colleagues  – we will have a proper celebration and memorial service commemorating the life of Judith Ann Stinson.

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